what do u personally think is better for a child (not like a baby in its very early stages but 2-5 yr old)
going to pre-school.. or staying at home with a parent.
going to pre-school.. or staying at home with a parent.
i personally think child care is better for their development.
Best answer:
Answer by lisaviduka
child care is muich better, kids get personal development skills and social skills. my daughter and son have bin in childcare since and early age and it definatley has an impact
What do you think? Answer below!
I think the ideal situation would be to have mom at home but go to a mom’s day out program 2-3 half days a week between the ages of 2-4 and all day kindergarten at age 5. Mine were in all day daycare at a young age because I had to work, but I would have much preferred to be able to be home with them more. They do gain a lot with regard to socialization and early learning in a daycare setting. But, I believe there is also a lot to be said about what can be gained from the security of having mom there for them, as well as what they can learn from us.
My daughter is 4 years old and just started pre-school in August. I think its been a great choice to have started her in it because I’ve seen a big difference in her development and her speech. Being in this school environment has been the first time she’s been around other kids her own age and its been so great for her social skills too. Before starting school she only had her 7 year old brother, myself and her dad. So for social, speech, and behavioral aspects, I think starting pre-school between 3-5 years old is a good idea.
It depends on how many children a child will associate with if he/she stays at home with a parent. Personally I would not consider child care before the age of three, but then I have 6 children so they had each other to play with and learn to share. We always ate at table, not in front of the TV, so they learned to eat properly and have conversations. My children also developed social skills before preschool by attending a parent and toddler group with me. When they did attend pre-school it was only for 3 half days a week until they were 4 years old and then they went 5 half days a week until starting school. The other days we did family art projects, went for walks, watched TV together so we could talk about the things they watched, read books, went to the library or museum. It’s not that we had loads of money. My husband is not on a fantastic wage, but I think there is no point in having children if you just shove them out to pre-school as soon as they are out of nappies.
Child Care……i’m a stay at home mom and ugh lol
Plus it helps develop the social skills. My 5 yr old daughter is glued to me since i decided to stay home, i know its gonna be crazy putting her in kindergarden next yr.
I agree with you, although I am biased because I am an Early Childhood Educator and have a daughter who attends daycare full-time.
All studies show that HIGH QUALITY child care settings are beneficial for children and helps develop all aspects of development particularly social. I have friends who are kindergarden teachers and they all say that children who have attended daycare are hands-down much better adjusted socially than children who haven’t, and are more advanced in skills such as recongizing letters and writing their name.
I personally believe that, assuming there is a certain level of parenting at home and the child care is good quality, that a combination of child care and being at home is the optimum. That gives mom and/or dad opprtunities to teach and interact with their child, and also gives the child an opportunity to interact with other children their age which teaches them tons of social skills (cooperation, sharing, etc.) and also teaches them how to cope without mom and dad every second.
Muffy – thanks for not critizing working moms and sharing your honest viewpoint! so many stay-at-home moms feel that child care is sinful!! I am all for stay-at-home moms, but I also firmly believe in the benefits of daycare.
There is not one answer to this question for all families. A kid can be happy and thrive home with mom or dad (assuming the parent is doing a good job raising them and the child also gets out into the world to the playground or library or playgroups or whatever); and a kid can be happy and thrive in daycare (assuming the daycare is high quality).
I think by age 3 or 4 there is a benefit to preschool (not necessarily full-day preschool, though), but that a very committed parent can likely give their child the same benefits if they don’t opt for preschool.
very old debate,,,there is no right or wrong answer,,,it is what is right for the family itself. my question to you is why is child care better? my children learned all the things at home that they would learn at day care and then some,,,they socialized with many other children. for OUR family it was best for my children to be at home with me. 1. i could NOT afford child care for twins in my area, 2. they learned the abc’s and 123′s from me, 3. i controlled the endowment. my twins are now 11 and get A’s and B’s, are highly intelligent, very social, and very well behaved. i have had a dentist and a pediatrician tell me i was a bad parent because my children stayed at home with me, instead of having them in day care. i really didnt understand that (other than they BOTH wanted to “work” on my children without me present and thought it was easier done if the child was not accustomed to me being around). personally i would not let ANY dr work on my child without me present be it i was a SAHM or not.
it is a personal decision and that is that, it works for one family it might not work for another.
i think noone should be judged for doing what they do or how they raise their families.
my lil one is 2 and has been going to day care for about 6 months she goes for 3 hours once a week, im a stay at home mum and enjoy the free time as my husband works 7 days a week. also since shes been going ive noticed a big jump in her development, she loves i love it!
im all for ppl having their kids in day care full time if thats their choice, but its not for me and my family
I think both are key to a child’s development. My son started daycare at 3 months old because I had no choice but to go back to work. I would have lost my health insurance that covered both myself and my son and I would have lost a really good pay scale that would keep a roof over our head and food in our mouths. Sure, there are lots of daycares out there, both good and bad, so I had to just fine the best daycare that suited my son.
He’s almost 2 yrs old and is now in a daycare center versus in home daycares. And he has just blossomed SO much since he started there almost 6 months to a year ago. This morning when I dropped him off, he went straight for the basket of toys and said, DINOSAUR! LOL! I almost died, that was the first time he’s said a big word like that.
The other children he plays with and interacts with are all the same age, but all different levels. It’s awesome he is able to interact with those kids and not only help teach them, but also learn from them. They do so many arts and crafts I already have a massive collection. They do field trips, yes, even at his age. They bring the field trips to the school and the kids get to explore things like fire truck day and animal day. I personally think that’s so important for kids to be able to learn about. And most importantly it’s FUN for them!
That’s not to say that a SAHM can’t provide those same things. But I have noticed my son’s behavior with me is quite different from his behavior with his teachers. Not in a bad way, just different. I’m Mommy, so he tries to get away with things and act differently with me. But they’re an “authorative figure” that he has to learn to respect and listen to and he does very well taking instruction from others.
Everyone of course, has their opinions on this, and to each their own. This is just my opinion on the issue. Since I don’t really have a choice to stay home with my son, I have to make the best choice is which daycare center I send him to. So far, I’m quite happy with my choice.
It depends on the kind of mother you are – a lot of mothers don’t always put much into their children’s development.
My eldest son went three days a week to nursery school, my younger son stayed at home with me. Both my daughters went to nursery full time, and I missed them dreadfully.
there’s plusses and minuses in both situations. I love my children and want to be with them. I want them brought up in their own home. And my son who stayed at home didn’t suffer in any way in his development.
My son is almost 16months old and i am also a SAHM..I plan on putting him in preschool when he is 3 at least 2 or 3 days a week..I think it will be better for his social and overall developmental skills..
I would say that staying home with the parent is the best option. You only have the first 4 years with your child and then they are off to JK, SK, grade school and then highschool and by then they don’t want to be hugged and kissed or cuddled or read too. lol
It is the first 5 years that are the most formedable for brain developement and if the parent has enough time to dedicate then staying home to teach is the most effective when done by parents; parents are teachers too. Even with simply daily interaction you teach your child different things and no amount of child care is going to compare. You create certain bonds with your child at that age and the way you parent whether it be a permissive style or democratic style or even authoritarian style parenting, your child is going to learn and grow from everyday experiences. There is tons of time for social developement in schools and daycares but not enough at home between parents and children and that is where the real magic is located. Why throw them to the world so soon? I have cherished the past 4 years with my son and now he off in school right now…learning and socialising. He just turned 5 and he is doing very well in school. So bright and just as bright and interactive as he would have been if he had been put in child care as opposed to me being the teacher these past years. They learn compassion and respect and confidence fom us first and thats how it should be. Personal opinion but until the age of four I think that its the parents responisibilty to caregive for their child(if the situation warrents it) I mean some parents have to work and child care is a must. I respect those that work and come home to children however I beleive the first 4 years should be open to your child’s needs first and work second and if that means staying home than arrangements should be made so that child care is not the number one contributor to your childs learning. Its like breastfeeding and bottle feeding; breastfeeding is more nutrional but bottle feeding is also the other nutrional option…it is just not as natural. Thats how I look at it. Both are good but only one can be the best choice.
There is a difference between “child care” & “preschool”. I think if you can put a 3-5 yr old in preschool a few hrs a day, a few days a week it is very good for their social and intellectual development. I do not think having a child in day care from 8-6 is the same as preschool. I also believe that kids belong with their parents most of them time and not in the care of others (which is why I stay home). I know that I am very fortunate to be able to be at home with my kiddos and I love it!